With all due respect to Mou, that's an assumption that may have been accurate 50 years ago. No longer. Now that the majority of women work, and many states are community property states, Mou's statement is hardly applicable, unless he assumes all women are gold diggers, I suppose. And that all women who marry just to divorce and get stuff are inherently unable to make their own money.

That's a pretty long con, though.

I asked for a divorce after 22 years of marriage (we divorced in 2015). At that time, our kids were 16 and 10. He left me with a mountain of debt, a mortgage, back taxes, and two bewildered children who wondered why he left town. For the record, I never asked him for a dime in alimony.

A good friend divorced her emotionally abusive husband. The judge gave them 50/50 custody, no alimony because 'she was able to work,' (her husband had refused to allow her to work and kept her on a strict allowance), and zero compensation for all the many years she supported him while he went to grad school and raised their 2 kids.

Depending on the state, a judge considers only the financial situation of each party and their ability to bring in income (not discussing celebrity couples or the ultra-rich here). As for custody, unless there is some type of abuse situation (and even then, it must be well-documented), both parents will be given shared custody of the children.

This is real life, not TV. The court's job is to be fair and impartial given the evidence provided. That is how it works.